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Wednesday, November 21, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Proud to Call You My Transgender Son
— Screening of a TEDxReno Talk by Skip Pardee
Because Thanksgiving is a time for family gatherings, we are screening a video of an uplifting TEDxReno Talk about the power of love.
At an age when he was just preparing to sign up for Medicare, and was contemplating when to take Social Security, Skip Pardee and his wife Veronica were confronted with a situation that potentially could have ripped their close knit family apart.
A former military officer, this Catholic father and his wife Veronica learned that their beloved daughter Dana was a transgender man. The experience taught him three lessons that he shares in this talk.
This inspiring story of a devoted father, a remarkable child, and an unsinkable family is the perfect start to a holiday season where we gather to celebrate those we love.
Wednesday, December 19, 2018 – 7:30 pm
A Holiday Gift - Extra Support
A beautiful family beams at each other across the food-filled table. The children's eyes are bright with excitement; the grandparents eyes twinkle with warm. Dad smiles proudly as Mom brings in the turkey.
Really? For many of us, the holidays do not bring family harmony. Our lesbian daughter wants to bring her partner to the holiday party. Our trans son is sporting his new buzz cut. An aunt in the family is prone to evangelizing. Help!
It's a December tradition at PFLAG Los Angeles to devote the entire meeting to support. Whether you have a specific holiday problem or just want a safe place to hang out for a little while, we'll be hear to listen and support.
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Wednesday, October 17, 2018 – 7:30 pm
— "One size does not fit all!" says therapist Tricia Kayiatos-Smith
Transgender children of every age need support as they come to understand their feelings. Parents who are accompanying them through the process also need ongoing care as they explore their own emotions and build strategies for helping their child.
It's a big order. All the more so because each child and each family is unique. The right approach for one may not work for others. Therapist Tricia Kayiatos-Smith, who has experience working with transgender persons and their families will suggest some approaches for picking a therapist. She'll also give us tips that we can use immediately in dealing with our LGBTQ children.
Tricia has been active in her field for over seven years. She holds a Master's degree in Social Work with a concentration in individuals and families from the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in New York City. Her graduate studies focused on advocating for transgender women of color engaged in survival sex work.
In addition to LGBTQ issues, Tricia is interested in artists and the creative process, and has contracted with the Women's Center for Creative Work. She has been a social work consultant for the thrice-annual Emergency Health Grant for Artists, as well as serving on their 2018 Programming Board.
For three years, she was honored to be employed as a medical social worker at the Los Angeles LGBT Center, helping trans* and gender non-conforming people navigate public health and benefits systems. She is a member of California Society for Clinical Social Work, National Association for Social Workers, National Organization for Women and World Professional Association for Transgender Health.
Often, she speaks of trauma and anxiety as a backpack which we carry around daily, not realizing how its weight can hinder us. She aims to create a space where clients feel comfortable setting down the backpack, unzipping it and examining what's within. Her goal with clients is to look at and honor each item inside and, ultimately, relieve them of some of that weight.
Visit her website: www.tkstherapy.com
Wednesday, September 19, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Broken Sunflower Hearts
— Miguel Angel Caballero presents his short film from Outfest
Does love linger after a breakup? Is compromise good for a relationship but bad for an individual? These universal themes take on added depth when explored in the context of a gay relationship, with its added complexities of internalized shame and societal rejection.
Miguel Angel Caballero tells a poignant story in his short feature screened at Outfest this summer. He will present the film in its entirety, followed by a discussion of the movie and of his own experiences as a gay man growing up in Oxnard. The film is something of a family affair, shot in Oxnard on a limited budget with the help of family and friends. They acted, composed music, did makeup and served as script supervisor!
Son of farmworker parents, Caballero and his long-time production partner Louis Aldana met at UCLA and have created Cabaldana Alchemy, a company committed to telling Latino queer stories. In addition to their filmmaking, they bring Latino youth to sets to observe and experience the intricacies of shooting a movie.
Caballero is both an actor and an experienced filmmaker, having produced the critically acclaimed film Cry Now, released in theaters in 2016. He also produced, co-wrote, and starred in the short film The Invitation, which premiered at the International Latino Film Festival in Los Angeles and aired on Showtime. For daytime television watchers, he has a recurring role on General Hospital.
Visit his website: www.miguelangelcaballero.com.
Wednesday, August 15, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Time to Talk
The PFLAG organization began with parents and LGBTQ people talking together about their experiences in a safe, supportive confidential group. Forty + years later, support groups are still at the heart of what we do.
That's why, two or three times a year, we devote the whole meeting to support. The extra time allows us to go more deeply into situations, issues, and feelings that are challenging. This November's meeting is one of those sessions.
We hope you'll all come with your trials and your successes, your fears and your victories, your hopes and dreads. When it comes to issues of sexual orientation and gender identity, we're all works in progress, growing through tolerance to acceptance to celebration one step at a time.
Your story will enrich our groups and help all of us to grow.
Wednesday, July 18, 2018 – 7:30 pm
"Coming Out" in India
— Sridhar Rangayan talks about his film Evening Shadows and the challenges of LGBTQ life in India.
Here in Los Angeles in the second decade of the 21st Century, it can be difficult to come out both as an LGBTQ person and as a family member and ally. Imagine what it is like in a country still very traditional, religiously conservative, and carrying the legacy of colonial British homophobia.
Sridhar Rangayan has lived this experience and depicted it in his award winning film Evening Shadows. It tells the story of a young gay man, Kartik, coming out to his mother Vasudha in a small town in Southern India. Living in a patriarchal and conservative society with no resources to support her, Vasudha must deal with her dogmatic husband and community condemnation while struggling to understand and accept her much-loved son.
“My mother found it very difficult to understand and accept me, because she neither had the information nor the resources — and absolutely no support from her peers,” said the Mumbai-based director, whose repertoire focuses on LGBTQ issues. Unfortunately, not much has changed in the intervening years.
But there is hope. Rangayan, an activist as well as a filmmaker, will also talk about a new organization, “Sweekar–Rainbow Parents," which he helped to start in India's most populous city. "Sweekar" is the Hindi word for acceptance. In February of 2018, this band of dedicated parents marched in the Mumbai Gay Pride Parade for the first time under this banner.
They have reached out to other parents in their community through platforms such as Facebook and WhatsApp. They have begun support meetings and hope to start a helpline for parents in the near future.
Come and hear about Rangayan's moving personal story, and about his film (playing at Outfest on July 15) which launched a parents' movement.
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Wednesday, June 20, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Outfest! Telling Our Stories Since 1982
— Jessica Broutt introduces Outfest and suggests some great films to see this year.
Yes, LGBTQ stories are entering the mainstream. Call Me By Your Name was a best picture nominee this year. Will and Grace is back on television. And The Simpson's Smithers has a crush on Mr. Burns. None of this would have been possible without the Outfest, the second oldest and most prestigious LGBTQ film festival in the world.
Since 1982, Outfest has been nurturing LGBTQ filmmakers and providing a showcase for their work. Renown for showing the breadth and nuances of the LGBTQ community in works of impeccable quality, Outfest is a must see event in our own backyard.
From July 12 to July 22, Outfest will be screening more than 150 features, documentaries and short films in a variety of venues. Among the notable offerings are Matt Tyrnauer’s vibrantly nostalgic documentary, Studio 54, Sundance NEXT Innovator Award winner We the Animals, and a French drama Reinventing Marvin.
Jessica Broutt serves as Outfest's Educational Programs Manager. She has also managed Outfest's Forward Programming, which include the Screenwriting Lab; Out Set: the Young Filmakers Project: Fusion Lab; InFusion; Industry Link; and the Outfest Alumni Network. A graduate of the University of California San Diego, she is passionate about the role of art in changing perceptions of the LGBTQ community.
Whether your interested in seeing one film or participating in the eleven day event, Jessica will tell you how to get involved.
Visit their website: www.outfest.org
Wednesday, May 16, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Building Resilience for LGBTQ Teens
– Tips for parents and youth from UCLA's STAR Clinic
It's an old story. LGBTQ teens struggle; parents worry. We're told "it gets better;" but we don't want to wait. We want tools we can all use right now to help young people thrive.
Our May speakers, Liz Ollen and Natalie Ramos have some answers. They will provide tips for parents and caregivers about how to help LGBTQ teenagers overcome the stressors in their lives. They'll also introduce us to the LGBTQ Teen Resilience Group being offered by UCLA's STAR Clinic, which helps families overcome challenges and trauma. Applications are currently open for teens from fourteen to seventeen.
Research shows that some youths maintain good functioning despite severe adversity, while others do not. Ollen and Ramos will talk about skills such as good communication and acceptance that fortify our youth. They'll also help us to identify and access community resources.
Both have strong backgrounds in youth and family psychology. Liz Ollen, M.A., Ed.M., is a pre-doctoral psychologist in the Nathanson Family Resilience Center (NFRC) at the UCLA Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior, where she provides individual and group therapy to children, adolescents, and families facing stress and trauma. She is currently involved in program development of clinical services, provider training, and research for LGBTQ youth at UCLA.
Natalie Ramos, MD, MPH is an Assistant Clinical Professor within the Division of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry at UCLA and a Board-Certified Child, Adolescent, and Adult Psychiatrist. She works with families, youths, and adults who have experienced stress or trauma, with a focus specifically on
Wednesday, April 18, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Does God Love LGBTQ People?
– Yes! Says Reverend Jerrell Walls
Whether you are a church goer or not, all of us have to deal with the hostility of "religious" people to the LGBTQ community. Under the current administration they are empower to attack the hard won rights of LGBTQ persons and their families. Unfortunately, family members sometimes use scripture to reject us.
The anger and pain these attacks cause are very familiar to Rev. Jerrell Walls. As the son of an Evangelical Christian Pastor, he has experienced the negativity that comes from well-meaning church people. His experience sent him on a journey to look again at the scriptures that were used against the LGBTQ community.
After studying those biblical passages in view of context, culture, language and audience, he found that faith and sexual orientation or gender identity are not in conflict.
Rev. Walls will share some of his insights with us, and suggest some ways of dealing with the "church people" in our lives who reject us and our loved ones.
The Rev. Jerrell Walls is the founding pastor of Christ Chapel of the Valley(CCOV) in the Sun Valley area of Los Angeles, started on January 12, 1992. His work has been primarily with helping the LGBTQ community know they are loved and accepted by God. He serves on the LAPD North Hollywood Division Community Police Advisory board and on the religious roundtable for LA County Department of Mental Health. Pastor Jerrell also serves as co-chair to Los Angeles Queer Interfaith Clergy Council (LAQuICC) as well as on the board of Christ Chapel Association of Churches.
Visit their website at: www.christchapel-la.org
Wednesday, March 21, 2018 – 7:30 pm
What's YOUR Story
– Charles Chan Massey wants to help you tell it through the Personal Stories Project
In 2012, Charles Chan Massey discovered what PFLAG members have known for a long time. Stories change lives. Especially the lives of LGBTQ people and their families.
Born, by and large, into straight families, LGBTQ persons often feel a sense of isolation. Hearing the stories of others with similar experiences is reassuring, liberating, and empowering. And that goes for their parents, family members and friends as well.
When accounts of his own openly gay life made a difference for other people, Massey started the Personal Stories Project with his co-founder and collaborator Sara Christie. Their goal was to provide a forum where LGBTQ people and straight allies (like parents and siblings) could share key life experiences with others in the community.
The Personal Stories project collects and publish these stories in written and video form, providing a compelling experience for the reader or viewer on a deeply emotional level. The Project's goal is to connect people with others who may have found themselves in similar circumstances and end isolation, embarrassment and shame.
As an "accidental activist" himself, Charles also works to inspire activism in others by connecting his audience with charities that promote the welfare of the LGBTQ community. At the end of every narrative, the storyteller is encouraged to mention such an organization that will benefit from a donate to the Personal Stories Project.
Massey's organization complements the work of PFLAG Los Angeles' Speakers Bureau, whose members tell their stories at schools of all levels, businesses and community organizations. His organization enables storytellers to reach large numbers through the power of social media.
Does it take courage to share intimate personal experiences with others? Yes, and Charles Chan Massey says it's one of the greatest contributions you can make.
Visit their website at: www.personalstoriesproject.org
Wednesday, February 21, 2018 – 7:30 pm
An Opportunity: Tell Your Story and Change the World
– Asher Lewis offers families chance to make a difference
The Project: Mr. Lewis is currently producing a new documentary CLOSET DOORS which explores the other half of the coming out conversation—the one that LGBTQIA+ persons rarely get to hear fully. What do parents think and feel when they are plunged into a new reality? Suddenly, they have to reshape their world view, plans, and relationships with their child—and with other members of their families and friends. Having a child come out changes a mom or dad as a person, a parent, a spouse, a church member, and a citizen.
Through a series of interviews, this documentary fixes its lens on the mothers, fathers, grandparents, and guardians of LGBTQIA+ individuals who have come out of the closet. The film looks into the relationships that are healthy and healed, as well as those in which the coming out process has created fractures. It follows straight family members as they deal with their own coming out process.
The film also looks at the historical dimensions of coming out—from the devastating revelations during the height of the AIDS crisis to the more optimistic conversations in the new era of marriage equality. It also explores the reality that LGBTQ persons and their families share—coming out is a life-long process—a journey, not a destination.
Wanted: Lewis and his team are seeking to interview parents, grandparents, foster/step parents and guardians of LGBTQI+ people willing to share their experiences—good, bad, and everything in between. You will have a chance to tell your story on camera in a safe, non-judgmental environment and describe how your beliefs, relationships and views have changed on this journey.
Filmmaker: Asher Lewis, winner of two Telly Awards, and whose work received an Emmy nomination has worked across the range of entertainment media including films, television series, documentaries, and commercials. His documentaries have included candid conversation about acting with Dabney Colman, Peter Falk, Harry Dean Stanton, and Sidney Pollack to name a few of the luminaries he has worked with.
Recently, he has been working as Co-Producer and Editor on the groundbreaking documentary series
OUT OF THE BOX, a tour de force multi-part documentary series profiling the power of television to shape hearts and minds through the lens of the LGBT rights movement.
If you or anyone you know may be interested in telling their story
please send an e-mail NOW to:
Please include the following information:
Your name, age, and city where you live.
Are you the parent, grandparent, foster/step parent or guardian?
A brief description of your story.
Have you yourself "come out"?
How would your child feel about you sharing your/their story?
Your primary contact information
(phone & email address)
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Wednesday, January 17, 2018 – 7:30 pm
— Meet Lindsey Deaton from the Trans Chorus of Los Angeles!
SPEAKER ISCANCELLEDwe will have more time for support!
Music has been called the "universal language of mankind." The Trans Chorus of Los Angeles (TCLA) works to change that phrase to the "universal language of humankind."
Transcending age, gender, sexual orientation, nationality, ethnicity, and all those categories that divide us, music opens us to the deep places we all share. TCLA uses that uniting power of music to change minds and hearts about trans and gender non-conforming people.
Since it's founding, TCLA has drawn attention to the trans community and trans issues through live performances, community engagement and social and traditional media. TCLA is using music to communicate a communal feeling of equality in a way rarely experienced in other forms of media & artistic expression. It is the largest group of trans and gender non-conforming people anywhere in the world who gather together regularly to raise their voices in song.
TCLA provides both a safe space in which trans individuals come together and sing, and an environment for audience to enjoy music while meeting trans and gender non-conforming individuals, perhaps for the first time.
The harmony TCLA creates is deeply moving—both musical and symbolic of the beauty diverse people make when they work together.
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