PARENTS, FAMILIES AND FRIENDS ALLIED WITH THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY
a Satellite of PFLAG Los Angeles
Gender Focus / Hollywood
Wednesday, December 18, 2019 – 7:30 pm
More Time for Support
— Plus something special!
A beautiful family beams at each other across the food-filled table. The children's eyes are bright with excitement; the grandparents eyes twinkle with warm. Dad smiles proudly as Mom brings in the turkey.
Really? For many of us, the holidays do not bring family harmony. Our lesbian daughter wants to bring her partner to the holiday party. Our trans son is sporting his new buzz cut. An aunt in the family is prone to evangelizing. Help!
It's a December tradition at PFLAG Los Angeles to devote the entire meeting to support. Whether you have a specific holiday problem or just want a safe place to hang out for a little while, we'll be here to listen and support.
Plus something special!
Get in the Mood and Filled
with the Holiday Spirit!
West Coast Singers:
The LGBTQ+ Chorus of Los Angeles
We are excited that a group of the West Coast Singers: The LGBTQ+ Chorus of Los Angeles will be singing a few songs from their annual holiday concert at our Westwood Meeting (more info)
Previous 2019 Guest Speakers and Events:
Wednesday, November 20, 2019 – 7:30 pm
High School –Tailored to Your Child!
— Indira Rios introduces Options for Youth Charter Schools
Often the biggest problem LGBTQ youth face is the daily grind at a traditional high school. Bullying by other students, misgendering by teachers, ignorance or apathy by administrators can make life unbearable.
There is a high quality alternative: Options for Youth is a group of free, public, accredited charter schools.
Options For Youth’s programs blended learning model allows students, teachers, and families the freedom to design an individualized learning plan for each student based on his or her strengths, weaknesses, college and career goals, and schedule outside of school. Unlike a traditional school setting where students work on the same material at the same general pace, OFY allows students to complete work at a pace that suits them best, typically focusing on no more than two core subjects at a time.
OFY students work closely with a core teacher, whom they meet at least twice a week. This time allows student and teacher to review coursework, administer tests and quizzes, and arrange for additional assistance, like Small Group Instruction (SGI) classes, as needed. Math, English, and Science SGI classes will allow students to learn collaboratively in small, safe environments, distraction-free, from highly skilled instructors.
Our speaker, Indira Rios, is an Enrollment and Outreach specialist with Options for Youth, who will describe program options and school locations.
Whether a student is behind on credits, disconnected from school, wants to graduate early, needs to tend to responsibilities outside of school, needs a safe place, or simply desires a non-traditional learning environment, Options for Youth Charter Schools provides proven educational alternatives.
Visit their website at www.ofy.org
Wednesday, October 16, 2019 – 7:30 pm
Two Inspiring Short Videos
Las Familias de PFLAG En Español
Nothing is more inspiring than loving families. This video shows Spanish speaking parents at our Boyle Heights meeting supporting their LGBTQ children and encouraging each other in their stand for equality.
This is What LGBT Life Is Like Around the World
A Ted Talk by Jenni Chang and Lisa Dazols about courageous LGBTQ activists around the world. These remarkable novice documentarians showcase trailblazers around the world.
Wednesday, October 19, 2019 – 7:30 am - 8:30 pm
Models of Pride Youth & Adult Conference - ALL DAY & FREE!
Models of Pride is the world’s largest conference for LGBTQI youth, allies parents and professionals. Participants attend an all-day event featuring an opening session, a choice of over 130 workshops, lunch, a resource fair, job fair, dinner, an entertainment hour and outdoor dance party. It is all FREE!.
Registration is required to participate. On-site registration is possible the day of the event from 7:30am until 1:30pm.
Go to ModelsofPride.org for more information.
Wednesday, September 18, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Free to Be!!!
— Drag Queen Story Hour Unleashes the Fabulous in Everyone
Remember when you could be an astronaut, a dinosaur, a princess or a dragon or anything in between? Remember the fun of planning your Halloween costume? And the freedom you felt when you put it on?
Bring your inner child to PFLAG Los Angeles’ September meeting and relive those days. Drag Queen Pickle will be reading us a story–and telling us about the wonderful synergy of drag queens, drag kings, books and kids.
In hundreds of venues from libraries to preschools and regular classrooms, drag queens read stories, sing songs, and lead craft activities for children from 3 to 8 years of age. Why? To help children feel free to express themselves in whatever way the want. And to model acceptance of all kinds of diversity, including gender expression.
Pickle has been part of Drag Queen Story Hour for two and a half years, and will share their experiences of delighting, encouraging, and sharing the joy of children who are free to be.
Drag Queen Story Hour (DQSH) was created by Michelle Tea and RADAR Productions in San Francisco. It started out as drag queens reading stories to children in libraries and grew into a global phenomenon! Now DQSH is a global network of local organizations, each of which is independently managed and funded.
In addition to story telling, DQSH offers literary and creative programming for kids and teens of all ages led by drag queens, kings, and creatures all over the world.
Visit their website at www.dragqueenstoryhour.org
Wednesday, August 21, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Trans Can Work
— Reducing the barriers to stable employment for transgender and gender non-binary persons.
Most of us know that work is a minefield for transgender and gender non-binary persons. Getting a job, keeping a job, and dealing with discrimination on a job is exponentially harder for people in this community. But many of us–trans and allies alike–don’t know how to fix the problem.
Trans Can Work has solutions that educate employers on creating a level playing field and provides job hunting and work skills for transgender persons. It’s a win/win for everyone, and also improves acceptance for lesbian, gay, and bisexual workers.
At the moment, statistics on transgender persons in the workplace are grim. According to the Center for Transgender Equality, “More than one in four transgender people have lost a job due to bias, and more than three-fourths have experienced some form of workplace discrimination. Refusal to hire, privacy violations, harassment, and even physical and sexual violence on the job are common occurrences, and are experienced at even higher rates by transgender people of color.”
Trans Can Work addresses these problems by reaching out to employers. They offer pre- and post evaluations of the workplace; individualized training and guidance to creating inclusive workplace cultures; and consulting for executive boards, HR divisions, leadership teams. They use a variety of strategies including elearning and experiential learning to help organizations succeed. They also help employers recruit transgender workers through their job referral services.
Trans clients can access job training, job search skills, and a network of inclusive employers through Trans Can Work.
Today there are an estimated 1.4 million adults in the United States who identify as transgender. About 27% of the youth in California, according to the Williams Institute, identify as transgender or gender non-conforming. Our own experience as speakers in California schools indicate that millennials are far more likely than previous generations to accept and expect LGBTQ persons as friends and coworkers.
Going forward, it’s just good business to hire diverse workers, a case that Trans Can Work is successfully making to forward looking businesses that want to thrive in years to come.
Visit their website at www.transcanwork.org
Wednesday, July 17, 2018 – 7:30 pm
Time to Talk
The PFLAG organization began with parents and LGBTQ people talking together about their experiences in a safe, supportive confidential group. Forty + years later, support groups are still at the heart of what we do.
That's why, two or three times a year, we devote the whole meeting to support. The extra time allows us to go more deeply into situations, issues, and feelings that are challenging. This meeting is one of those sessions.
We hope you'll all come with your trials and your successes, your fears and your victories, your hopes and dreads. When it comes to issues of sexual orientation and gender identity, we're all works in progress, growing through tolerance to acceptance to celebration one step at a time.
Your story will enrich our groups and help all of us to grow.
Wednesday, June 19, 2019 – 7:30 pm
A Medical Home for LGBTQ Youth
— Robin Sax introduces a new program for our at-risk youth
It's no surprise that the most vulnerable among us are also the most likely to be victims of physical and sexual assault. Children, the elderly, and people who identify as LGBTQ are frequent targets. The Violence Prevention Program (VIP) works to turn these victims into thriving survivors.
Founded by Dr. Astrid Heger, the Violence Prevention Program began as a response to child abuse--physical and sexual. Dr. Heger is a pediatrician who did forensic examinations on child victims of abuse. Early on, she realized that children needed more than a physical examination and treatment for their injuries. They needed a bath; clean clothes; a safe, child-friendly environment in which to recover; and mental health services. So she created the Children's Medical Village, a medical home for foster children and other victims of abuse. She expanded services to the elderly, after an encounter with a battered 80-year-old woman.
What does this have to do with the LGBTQ community? Many of the youth who came to the Village were in the foster care system, where a disproportionate number are LGBTQ. Partnering with the Alexis Arquette Family Foundation, VIP and County/USC Medical Center, Dr. Heger's team decided to extend their program to queer youth.
Our speaker, Robin Sax, is the program director of this new program. She is working to design specialized medical and mental health services in a caring environment where LGBTQ youth can find safety and support. The ultimate goal is to create a standard of care that will spark a national movement toward improving access and services for all LGBTQ persons.
Sax, an attorney and social worker, will share the work going on at VIP. She also hopes to learn from us about gaps in service for members of our community.
Sunday, June 9, 2019 – 10:00 am
March With Us In The LA PRIDE Parade
Get the most
on where to meet
us before the parade starts!
May 15, 2019 – 7:30 pm
Bisexual? Pansexual? Fluid?
— Lauren Sleator and Cynthia Wang explain this "Invisible Majority"
In the LGBTQ community, bisexual individuals are the group most often left out. They There seems to be an implicit assumption that because they are attracted to the opposite (or all) genders, they are not REALLY gay or trans. They don't really seem to fit.
Yet bisexuals, a term that includes all non-monosexual identifications, make up 52% of those identifying as LGBTQ. They also make a significant, but underreported, percentage of the general population, and include many people who have experienced attraction to more than one gender but don't identify as bisexual.
Lauren Sleator, a board member of the Los Angeles Bi Task Force (LABTF), co-host of this event is here to challenge our assumptions and change our perspective. She will explain what bisexuality is, what it is not, and what challenges bisexual people face. She will also debunk the myth that bisexuals are just conflicted gay men or lesbian women who haven't completely accepted their orientation.
Founded in 2008, and a registered non-profit since 2010, the Los Angeles Bi Task Force (LABTF), is a grassroots organization that promotes education, advocacy, and cultural enrichment for the bisexual/pansexual/fluid communities in the Greater Los Angeles Area.
If you are interested in becoming a better ally to bisexual friends, family members, and members of our community, join us for this enlightening and empowering event.
Wednesday, April 17, 2019 – 7:30 pm
How to Succeed in Being Yourself
— Speakers Bureau Member Mike/Michelle Dennis shares her story
Being yourself seems like a no-brainer. But it's not so easy for transgender persons in a heterosexual, cisgender dominated world. Transgender persons and their families often worry whether living authentic lives will ever be possible.
"Yes it is," says Los Angeles Speaker Bureau member Mike/Michelle Dennis. Mike/Michelle wanted to be a girl as a young child. When Dennis was growing up, there was no information about gender identity and no pathway to transition.
How did Dennis find a way to live as Mike/Michelle? What were the obstacles? How were they overcome? And what can we as transgender persons, parents, and allies learn from this journey? Mike/Michelle will provide answers and encouragement.
Mike/Michelle Dennis has had a distinguished career as the director of finance for the city of Santa Monica and as a Professor at UCLA's Graduate School of Public Affairs. Currently, she is an activist and leader in the transgender community, building courageous and empowering connections among people of all genders and orientations. Mike/Michelle is a much requested speaker, and we are fortunate to have her as a member of our Speakers Bureau and of PFLAG Los Angeles.
Wednesday, March 20, 2019 – 7:30 pm
Now that they're out—finding help for your transgender child
— Adrian Gonzalez discusses services at the Center for Trans Youth Health and Development of Children's Hospital Los Angeles
The handwriting is on the wall. By behavior or words, your child or family member has told you they are transgender. Now what?
It's a hard question to answer, and the usual parenting books don't help much. Ditto the average pediatrician. Parents need information and education in a safe, supportive environment, and they need it NOW.
Health Education Associate Adrian Gonzalez will talk about an important resource. The Center for Trans Youth Health at Children's Hospital Los Angeles. The Center's mission is to providing affirming care for transgender and gender diverse children, adolescents, young adults and their families. As one of the oldest and largest trans youth programs, the Center partners with youth and their families to help individual children and families while advancing the field through innovative practice, training and research.
The Center is unusual in that it rejects the "gatekeeper" role, and works to help patients and their families in the least restrictive way possible. As you might expect, the Center for Trans Youth Health provides basic and gender affirming medical services, mental health services, age appropriate peer groups, and resources for parents and families.
But it's more than that--much more. Come and hear Adrian Gonzalez discuss this multifaceted program for transgender youth and their families.
Visit their website: www.chla.org/adolescent-and-young-adult-medicine
Wednesday, February 20, 2019 – 7:30 pm
Proud to Call You My Transgender Son — Screening of a TEDxReno Talk by Skip Pardee
We are screening a video of an uplifting TEDxReno Talk about the power of love.
At an age when he was just preparing to sign up for Medicare, and was contemplating when to take Social Security, Skip Pardee and his wife Veronica were confronted with a situation that potentially could have ripped their close knit family apart.
A former military officer, this Catholic father and his wife Veronica learned that their beloved daughter Dana was a transgender man. The experience taught him three lessons that he shares in this talk.
This inspiring story of a devoted father, a remarkable child, and an unsinkable family is a perfect way to celebrate those we love.
Visit TEDx Talks
Wednesday, January 16, 2019 – 7:30 pm
APLA Health — Attacking Inequality in Health Care and HIV Prevention
Our speakers share programs designed for underserved communities.
It's hard for an LGBTQ person to find a affirming and knowledgeable doctor, who can address issues specific to sexual orientation and gender identity.
If you are a person of color, it's exponentially more difficult. In addition to the ignorance and homo/trans phobia of many in the health care community, people of color also face racial bias, financial barriers, and the fear of outing.
APLA Health's mission is to change all that. Their goal is to achieve health care equity and promote well-being for the LGBTQ and other underserved communities as well as people affected by HIV.
It's an ambitious goal considering the diversity of Los Angeles. APLA Health has attacked that challenge head on, with programs designed to serve multiple communities. Our January speakers will describe four core programs reaching different populations.
Healthy Him is an umbrella that covers the youth programs of APLA Health in Los Angeles. Serving young men of color (especially those who are gay or bisexual), it delivers medical services and HIV prevention education, while also providing needed guidance in mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
Trans Connections offers services to transgender people of color, ages 18 to 29, incentivizing HIV & STI testing and PrEP/PEP counseling. Joint HIV testing for trans folks and their partners is also available, as well as links to resources for HIV positive persons and those seeking care beyond the scope of APLA Health.
The Red Circle Project serves American Indian/Alaska Native/Native Hawaiian people. It is currently the only HIV prevention program in Los Angeles County that specifically targets this community. In a safe, supportive environment, participants receive free HIV testing and education along with culturally competent resources, referrals, innovative materials and programming.
The African American Gay Men’s Health Initiative (AAGMHI) is a program with several interventions for Black gay men and Black men who have sex with men (MSM) to help prevent new HIV infections by addressing stigma, shame, guilt, homophobia and internalized homophobia. A carefully designed program called Unique Bruthas United provides many confidential paths of entry to the clinics services.
If the LGBTQ community is to thrive, high quality, culturally competent health care for all is a necessity. Come and hear how APLA Health is making it a reality.
Visit their website: www.aplahealth.org
Johnson & Johnson
Bloomingdales and IBM